What most dating coaches lie about

Most of the dating coaches out there usually have the common thing to say: “get any girl you wanted”.

This is completely wrong thinking and actually a marketing lie, and I will explain to you why.

I have heard about websites that promises the last attraction formula, a scientific proven method, etc. What they are doing to you is sending you far away from what you want.

There is no magical formula on the market place to attract “any” woman, because attraction is not a choice. When a man and a woman look into each other´s eyes, on the first ten seconds, the attraction is there or is not. Simple. Real attraction cannot be faked, the only thing that prevent two people of being together is their own minds.

If there is no attraction between two people when they first meet, you can change the way she perceive you by changing your state of mind and playing with her emotions on the run. Although is a slow process that never guarantees total success. What it does is increase your potential of being successful.

The reason is that everyone have a sexual imprint, which contains a unique set of features that naturally attract or repel us sexually or erotically. Subconsciously we scan on the first seconds each person the moment we see, hear, smell, and touch someone. The closer the person match our imprint, the more intense the feeling of attraction we experience. Sometimes two or key variables are enough to give us that feeling.

As the whole attraction process is stored deeply in our subconscious, it means that you can be attracted to a particular person but if you don’t match the person’s imprinting, you won’t be attracted to that person, does not matter how hard you try.

Thus, what is out there is a way to bring out the best within you that you have been hidden all your life and increase the number of matches and open yourself to new possibilities and clean the vison. Yes, most of the times, a woman are attracted to you but you don’t even know, understand or think is possible.

The true is that being great with woman is simple self-development on your own. Attraction is not a choice but being an attractive is a choice. You have every single day the choice to being attractive or not to be. Believing or not, woman are a by-product of you being great with yourself. That is an inner work that only you can do by each single day.

Success is made of little steps that you do each day, by creating a little ritual. Changing will start immediately the moment your subconscious accepts new believes. Your life can dramatically shift if you really believe on your core, that you are a sexual desirable man and that the woman that you want and deserve wants you. That will increase your changes with women and you will start to see through the matrix things that you never though were possible. Even that, the mindset increases the probabilities and the diameter of attraction around you, but is not “attracting any woman”. So, keep work  on yourself and get more matches.

Best,

L