Stimulate her Reptilian

You can be the nicest guy in the room. You can match all the needs on a women’s list. You can meet all the archetypal qualities that a woman says she wants in a man.  But if you don’t talk to her reptile brain, she is gone.

What is the reptilian brain?

If fact you have three brains and not one. The reptilian it’s the oldest one and is the part that doesn’t think or rationalize. The only thing it pays attention is: survival, feeding, self-maintenance, social needs and reproduction or sex. In addition to this, it is also responsible for controlling your automatic bodily functions, such as the beating of your heart, the breathing of the lungs and the regulation of the body temperature.

The reptilian does not know the difference between the imaginary and the reality, and it works through pictures. That’s why when you see a porn content, it instantly activate a trigger in your brain that is expressed in your body as an erection.

We live in a society that is controlled by subliminal images. The use of sex or erotic images in commercial campaigns is one of the tricks that the market uses to compete for our attention or to influence our behavior.  If you want to eliminate the competition around you, you have to stimulate the reptilian.

Without this understanding, the triggers that you are exposed everyday will influence your thoughts, behaviors and the false illusion of control. If you are not aware what is doing to you, you will live a life based on unconscious drive.  

In other words; if you are not aware of those triggers inside of yourself; when you see a beautiful attractive woman, your brain put you in a trace state. Thoughts of sexual approval, dominance, submission and aggression will start pop up.

Have you ever met those people that when they walk into a room, you become emotionally affected? You don’t know what exactly it is; it’s a vibe or a type of charisma that ones have that influence your physiology and the way you act in from of them. It’s like you were hypnotized by somebody without conscious thought. That’s one of the reasons that does not matter what you say or do.

One thing is what women say they want, other thing is what they emotionally respond.

I don’t care what women say they want or look at a man, when you store her emotions there is nothing she could do about. Normally she will say to you a “programmed answer” based on society and culture. She will go to Dr. Phil or Oprah and will say that she wants a really nice and caring guy but when she leaves, she will contradict herself and be attracted to a different one. This one has the ability to play with her emotional and irrational side of her personality. The mysterious, adventurous and dominant males always stimulate those triggers in her reptilian brain. When you show how your life is exciting and make her wonder what comes next, she will do a mental picture of herself with you.

We live in a society that tells us that there is not enough for everyone. That makes us believe, that is the woman that has the power of choice over man. We were raise to believe that we must do all the things to please a woman in order to make her like us. We constantly struggle and feel insecure on the first date with a woman because we just think about sex and pleasing. We resume all our lives in a single conversation because we have afraid that she doesn’t choose us or don’t have a second date.

Of course there are other factors to generate attraction. In a preview post I talked about the sexual imprint that each one carries around, or a blueprint that influence how much we match other person’s list and feel attraction. The closer the person match our imprint, the more intense the feeling of attraction we experience. Sometimes two or key variables that resonates with us are enough to give us that feeling.

Woman love emotional spikes, that’s why they choose the dramatic ones.  Give it to them.

The secret for being attractive is not what you do. The secret to being attractive is the feelings that you install and create in other people. Stimulate the reptillian and change your results with the woman you want.

L

Twelve ingredients to take control of your life

If you are serious about transforming your lifestyle and become more attractive to the opposite sex, read and immerse on those twelve ingredients every single day.
Reflect on those points and apply to your daily life till they will become a habit or a second nature. Is when it becomes effortless to you that your life will begin to change immediately. For real change you need to alter your state of being, you have to lose your mind a get a new one and become something else. When you think differently and be in that state of mind for a long period of time you alter your state of consciousness which your external environment always give feedback.
In a couple of months you will need a telescope to see where you where before!...



Take responsibility

To move forward in your life you have to accept your current situation. Stop playing the role of the victim and play full responsibility. Most people spend their entire life attached to a past that doesn't exist anymore or avoiding the present moment by placing their happiness into the future. If you want real change in your life you have to accept things as they are and not as you wanted to be. Close your eyes take a deep breath and accept your life as it is right now. Always see every past situation as a teacher. A great life has always a great renunciation attached.

Move forward

According to the previous rule your past is a mental concept, a psychological time that give you lessons, so put it behind your back and start living. To live fully the present you must be willing to forgive what happened to you in the past and move forward.

Be away from the game

Being great with women is a byproduct of you being great with yourself.  Don't try to change women, change yourself instead. Because the best man you can be and you will notice how other people will answer you. Spend more time alone working on yourself, your values, passions and believes before wanting desperately to get laid.

Find your purpose

Never put any women as your priority in life. So many men put women on a pedestal and forget about what make them happy and make life worth. If you haven’t find your purpose in life go figure out right now. A woman loves men that is fighting or have a sense of mission. Actually she doesn’t want to a man’s priority, she want to follow him instead.

Be in the moment

Live in the moment requires practice and awareness. This point is extremely important when connecting with women on the emotional level. They feel you when you are present and listening. Being in the moment requires shutting down all the crazy nasty thoughts that distract you from the now. When you are talking with somebody this person must be the most important people in your life.

Love yourself unconditionally

How do you want to love somebody is you don’t love yourself? This one is the key to become a magnetic person and having everything you want in life. Loving unconditionally is understanding and being aware of your virtues and flaws. When you fully accept yourself,  you walk, feel and speak with a different energy that is very attractive.  So be comfortable in your own skin and give up of trying to be perfect.  When you love yourself you respect your body and choose really careful what thoughts you want to feed your mind. Build a relationship around you and women will want to be part of your life. You really attract love when you love yourself.

Build self-confidence

Ask any women you want what makes her feel attracted to a man and they will say: Confidence. Then ask her what is confidence, and she won’t know what is that. That is because confidence is a projection of a feeling, an attitude that somebody has which sometimes people confuses with arrogance. Confidence is itself sexy and attractive to the opposite sex. Is that unexplainable attitude that someone has that makes others gravitate to you naturally.  People naturally respond to someone that knows where he is going in life. When you project this feeling of “knowing what you are doing” your body language is usually relax and fearless, which make other people surrender to you and follow your lead without question it. When it comes to women that is very pleasant because they feel secure and trust you. Women want a man that makes her relax from all their insecurities and pressures.
 
Be a risk-taker

Never settle for less. Being in a comfort zone can be a dangerous spot to be. Any successful people have to challenge himself to get something out of life. So stop watching TV at home and playing video games all day and go after what you want. The real champions are made on field and each day is a perfect day to change the destiny.

Be authentic

Why you want to be as anybody else? I see a lot of people nowadays trying to be someone that they are not, instead of expressing their authentic self. One thing is being inspired by someone; other thing is being a copy. In this infinite Universe, you are a unique and authentic being that have a limited time to express itself, so express it. Be that man that is the same when nobody is watching. Don’t live behind a mask and start to express your greatness in everything you do. Be congruent of what you think, say and do.
 
What others people think about you is not of your business

If you got this one I guarantee you that you will increase your sense of freedom and happiness. Repeat this affirmation all the moment " this is my life and I am going to live it the way I want to". What matters what people think about you?  What other think can’t distract yourself from your reality. Always remember that nobody can affect you, only if you give yourself permission. Is not what they say to you, is what you say to yourself when they stop talking.

Love what you do in life

This one is obvious, but a lot of people still have afraid of following that. When you love what you do in your life you vibrate in a different level. Follow your inner voice and find out your passions and you will project excitement and inspiration to other people. If you can make a living with what you love to do that is a perfect match. Be willing to spend time about thinking of what you love to do and go do it.
 
Be adventurous

Live your life as an adventure. Become the most interesting person you know. Have stories to tell others before you die, and make yourself an inspiration for those who one day read your story. Women love story tellers because they picture themselves as part of your adventure. Being adventurous is being unpredictable and expressing a spontaneous attitude at any time. Is breaking the rules and uncover that primal energy inside of ourselves.

Practice makes perfect!
L

Express your authentic self

When you meet someone physically attractive, you must understand that is just somebody, nothing else. Most guys feel extremely needy when they meet a hot woman and immediately start to qualify themselves to them by talking too much and trying to project something bigger than they actually are.
Well, all you are doing in the eyes of the other person is this:



“Take me, I am yours”

or...

“You should be my girlfriend”.

Only if a woman is too desperate or haven’t have sex for months that will take you home. Although the next day you will not hear about her or she will look for something better through the days.
Now, if you want to have in your agenda high quality women, you have to understand that you need to behave in a different way. Separate yourself from the crowd and play the lazy game as I cal. Let the others do the work for you and lay back on your sofa and expect her calls. When you don’t do what others do, you don’t have any competition.

Listen,

You don’t know anything about the person you first meet, so why you should put so much pressure on yourself by trying to think or do too much? She can be a great person but also a trouble one or even a prostitute as well. So, wait till you really understand what is the situation and stop coming across needy or taking her too seriously. Understand that you are the “prize” that she can have or not and you know what you have to offer her.

Ask yourself anytime you feel that she is superior and you feel the need to qualify to her: I know what I have to offer you, what do you have to offer me?

I am not saying that you need to come as a huge ego and make her feel that you are intangible. No, put always a woman as equal as you. All my advice is based on expressing your true self and let your authenticity as a man show up. Express all the things that are uniquely about you and go with the flow any time. You don’t need to think about what to say or do, you just have to let your unconscious being do the work for you. You don’t need to change your attitude when you meet somebody new; in fact all you have to do is being present and make the other people feel that they have meet you years before. Threat others as they are your best friends and they will open themselves to you. When it comes to women that is the key for true connection and building a great chemistry. When they feel that they have meet you before, look what you are giving to her, the feeling of that “was meant to be”. Everything that is natural is like faith on her eyes .

Women love a man that is 100% authentic and sincere about them. If on the first time you meet a woman you express unconsciously that two qualities you can have everything from her. Does not matter if she is as a great boyfriend or married for twenty years, authenticity mixed with sexual confidence are the keys to unlock woman’s mind. When you make a woman feel that she can trust you, because you are not hiding something and at the same time you are being comfortable with yourself and your sexual feeling, you can have women emotionally and sexually open to you.
I can’t tell you how many times a woman just told me her sexual fantasies or her dark secrets just because I was honest with myself when I was meeting her. After twenty minutes of conversation she will start to say ” I don’t know why I am telling you this”. She can be in a relationship with somebody she loves, but that does not matter that she will open to that person.

Generally, a women never forgets the first time she meets an attractive man or an interesting one, even the years passed by, she will always remember how someone make them feel. Some married women told me that they still remember the first feeling the man they are currently married gave them. That’s why you must work on yourself first and look at your best and be prepared for the unexpected, because you don’t know when “that girl” will show up. Is always on the unexpected spots that you never though you would meet someone that great connections happens.

L

You don’t need to know what to say

When it comes to attraction between two people the words are just a killing time.

 

When you build your sexual confidence and have an interesting lifestyle, you naturally become interesting to the opposite sex. Remember, a woman is naturally unsatisfied and bored with their life, and most of the time they settle with somebody because they need attention and feel the excitement of the new. They want somebody to lead her to new emotions and memories.

 

When you build an interesting life, you automatically become an interesting man. You not only become interesting but also build confidence and put you in a fearless state which naturally people perceive. Women have a strong intuition about a man to understand if something is going on in his life. They can tell for the way a man walks, talks and smile if he is having sex or not. This way of being is naturally attractive not only for women but for people in general. Being busy and having a sofisticated mystery is extremely seductive itself and women will want to know what are you all about and hear your stories. The key here is keeping that mystery running in their minds.

The first thing I usually say to my clients when they desperately want to know what to say to a woman is:

 

Stay away and build a funny interesting lifestyle and they will come to you when you less expect. Do different things all the time and run away from any routine or a structure life, and your automatic answers will show up.

 

When you have a life you have things to say.

 

So many times I got woman interested with me because of not I said or do, but because they were wondering what I have been doing lately. When you have an adventurous and busy life you become the hero of your own story. In woman’s head you are that man that they have been reading in romance novels for so long, and they want to personally make physical contact with even if it is just for one night stand. You are the fantasy for the simple fact that she believes that she will not get bored with you and you are the perfect answer to their problems. A woman will start to dream about you and see how it would feel if she was in your life.

 

The key to become naturally good with woman is the mindset and the lifestyle. You can stay at home doing affirmations though affirmation and train your mind hardly, but if you don’t put yourself into alignment with what you desire is just a waste of time. To succeed in anything in life you have to train your mind and take massive action at the same time by building an attractive life.

 

So when you develop the right mindset and lifestyle, actually you don’t even think about what to say. Things will come naturally to you and you can say the stupid thing that women will find it cute all the time. The incredible thing is that when you become a desirable man, are the women that will qualify to you all the time and all you have to say is “HI”. It sounds crazy, but when there is attraction between two people, does not matter what you say or do. Words have a low meaning when the attraction is there. For a woman the first five seconds are enough for her to select you as a sexual partner. If she is interested in you, you will understand her body chemistry shift with your presence and she will show her interest a few minutes later.

 

Keep rocking,

L

Turn on your Sexual Energy Part. 1

Learning to activate your sexual energy is essential to be able to attract the opposite sex on a natural way. No matter how many books or seminars you attend about seduction, if you want to become naturally good with woman you have to become aware of your sexual energy.

 

Men usually lack sexiness, mostly because they block this energy to circulate freely around their bodies. When we feel shame or guilty about feeling sexual about somebody or we don’t fully accept our own sexuality, we close ourselves to the opposite sex without we even understand.

We simple become invisible to the other sex. You can try as many techniques or routines as you want or play the game but it won´t work if you don’t know how to project this sexual energy. This energy has the ability to open yourself to new possibilities or close the doors to any attraction with the woman.

 

One of the biggest reasons we fall into the well known “friend zone” is simple by that. We don’t know how to project this sexual feeling towards somebody. It’s normally ourselves that put into this category, not woman. A woman wants to be attracted to you, but you just don’t give her a chance or know how to project what is inside of you.

 

Why some men by simple walking into any place automatically make woman gravitate towards them?

 

Is simple, they possess a sexual aura around them that woman pick up on that. This projection can be made by unconscious thought or consciously. The interesting thing is that the average guy can look at them and they don’t understand or see what a woman can see. But for a woman, he is simple irresistible, he is the one that can fulfill her sexual needs. Is the intensity of the vibration of your sexual aura that makes other people perceive you as attractive or desirable. It’s nothing to do with how good looking you are, how much Money you have in your bank account or what car you drive, when you have this sexual aura you become a sex object to women.

 

There are many ways to activate this energy and make it flow freely into your body.

 

The first one is getting a new mind. The mindset creates not only new results but also change your internal chemistry. Each thought produces a specific chemical in the body that makes us feel a certain way. Most of the times we feel anxious or stress and we don’t even know why and that is because our internal program in our subcounscious are running on default and creating our state of being.

 

In relation with woman, when we first lock eyes with someone that we feel attracted to, some thoughts inside of us trigger, which make our body system shut down in a matter of seconds. We start to feel the buzz of our internal sexual energy under our belly going crazy and our primal brain being scramble. We suddenly feel the need for sex but at the same time we don’t feel we deserve. We lost the words and the breath because we don’t know what to say or do. We lost the trust in ourselves in that moment because we don’t know what to offer to that girl. We don’t feel we are the prize so we give our power away.

 

This is related to these unconscious thoughts that we are not aware of. Those thoughts are a result of thinking a certain way for so long that our brain cells become addicted to. This addiction is a paradigm. A paradigm is a multitude of habits that are fixed in our subconscious by repetition. This paradigm dictates not only our perception of the world but also turn on or off our sexual energy. When we change this paradigm we magnetize ourselves and become attractive to the opposite sex instantly.

 

Best,

L

The Power of Sexual Confidence

Sexal confidence is all you need to develop to attract the opposite sex. You can be a confident man and you will attract woman once in the while. But when you reach the level of sexual confidence you become irresistible. There is nothing a woman can do when you are in this state of mind, because the choice was already made for her.

 

Why some men are considered the sexiest people alive?

 

Of course there are many reasons for that but there is always a comum thing about having sex appeal. All you can see is their attractive looks, but do you know that only 20% of your sex appeal is physical appearance and 20% is intelligence? So what is the remaining 60%?

Two words: Sexual Confidence.

 

You don't need to be the smartest guy in the room or having the perfect body, all you need to cultivate is your sexual confidence. Yes, sexual confidence is attractive itself. People with a strong sexual confidence, exude an infectious energy around them that invite people to come in. This carefree "vibe" make woman wonder about them. Their eyes speak their adventurous wild side and a confident smirk exudes an aphrodisiac sense of humor. They are natural magnets as they find easier to get what they want in life and people like to be around them. Sexual confidence have the ability to free woman from their lust, sexual fantasies and fears about thinking of sex. When you reach this confort of your own sexuality and your sexual intentions people around you feel safe and free.

 

When women look at those men, they can’t tell you exactly or define in words what it is. They just say, “He has it”. It’s that inexplicable feeling about someone that make woman gravitate towards. It’s the same thing when you see a Lamborghini pass by. This is the perfect exemple of an exclusive product on the market that everybody wants to buy or have a piece of it. Their irresistible charm and sexiness make everybody love it and want to have a ride.

 

How can I develop sexual confidence?

 

Without this level of confidence you can become sexual invisible to the oposite sex. Sexual confidence is a feeling about yourself. So what you have to do is develop a feeling of being desirable to the oposite sex. It’s something that one feels on the inside, but when projected on the outside it’s extremely seductive and rare. When you are 100% clear and authentic about yourself, fully embracing your values, emotions and sexuality, you naturally change the chemistry of your body which allows your sexual energy to flow freely into your body.

Begin to place new beliefs about yourself. Again, mindset is the key to develop that sexy edge that all women want. A feeling is the result of a chemical produced from a thought, so if you place different thoughts into your mind all your body chemestry will answer in a different way. When you start to think differently about yourself, on how desirable and sexy you are, your vibration changes, and what you attract into your life changes.

 

You need to go back to your past experiences and find out which beliefs about your sexuality were accepted by your subconscious. Much of your sexual confidence is depended on how you were raised and how open minded you are towards sex. How your parents introduced you to your sexuality, how religion could have affected you and how shame you have towards sex is a key to understand what your belief system is processing. Some of the sexual problems start right away from the beginning of interaction with our genitals, the feeling of guilty about masturbation and the interaction of the opposite sex.  Much of our sexual confidence comes from accepting our body and seeing it as a desirable to others.

 

Second, walk slowly around your place naked and feel your sexiness and natural sensuality. Feel your skin and your feet on the floor when you walk. Think of yourself as a powerful human being, or an animal or someone that you respect or fantasy. Let your body take over the entire space and tell yourself that you own it. Bring that hunter and wild side of you by taking space and "occupying your territory".

 

Stop and look yourself to a big mirror for a long period of time and appreciate each detail of your features. Feel proud of yourself and your body. Develop an inner smile, by smiling to different parts of your body through your mind. If you want, you can begin this process by putting a music that makes you very emotional. Expressing emotion when you look at yourself is essential to record vision of yourself into your subconscious mind.

 

The next time you enter into a conference room, a club or any place remember the feeling that you have felt with this exercise. The more you practice, the more this feeling will become natural to remember and you will be able to switch on and off any time you want. When this comes a second nature to you, you will see how others stop and notice you. Assertiveness of mind is what make others react to you and gravitate towards you.

Best,
L

5 Beliefs That will change your dating Life Forever

On the last post I discussed how important it is to have the right mindset to achieve your goals. The mindset is the foundation of becoming great in anything in life. When you are clear about what you desire and give total energy and dedication, you will attract whatever you need to achieve it. People, circumstances will show up in your life to match your internal beliefs. Your brain always makes sure that your external world matches your internal world. It’s kind of mystical and magical how it happens, but is an absolute law.

If you want to attract constantly woman into your life there are five cores beliefs that you must assimilate. When you call someone “a natural” with woman, that kind of individual that without saying a word is able to drawn woman to him, he must have clear in his mind those beliefs and principles:

• "Wherever you want there is abundance everywhere". It’s going to be always a girl for you everywhere you go. When you have this belief you don’t look for, because it happens to you all the time. It’s part of your lifestyle to meet woman everywhere you go.

• "Remove any negative thought about someone that has what you want". You cannot become someone that you don’t like. If you want to become a lady´s man you have to admire men that are great with woman. Most people when are in front of a “playboy” or a guy that have a beautiful woman in his life usually envy or have regrets about that.

• "You don’t need what you want". What you desire, does not define you as a man. For you to be able to get what you say you want, you must be willing to give up anytime. This principle is important because when you embrace it, you are telling yourself that what you want is coming no matter what. You can walk away easily when you are about to get it because it does not value you as a human being.

• "Wherever is you want, don’t care if people think the opposite of you". Be able to accept the opposite of what people think of the person you want to be. That principle is fundamental for you to reinvent yourself and move forward to the person you want to be. When you have woman in your life and people ask you or think that you are gay or a virgin or why don’t you get just the one girl, just smile and know who you are and what you want.

• "Whatever you want, it wants to come to you". You don’t have to go outside to get what you want. You just have to open the door and get it. When you think like that, you know that you don’t need to do much to get what you are looking for, you just have to get out of your own way and go get it.

Best,

L